The Art of Human Relationship

Relation, stems from relate. May be quite obvious to some. Humans, what do they do all the time besides eating? ; )
From what I see, we sure like to talk. Relate. Interact. We love to share. And if we value sharing so much, why is there still so many out there having a hard time building an effective sharing relationship?

Marriage! Men! Women! I hear all these cries in vain! We, as adults, need counselling to sort out a relationship gone wrong! What happened here?

Through observation on myself and those around me, The Art of Human Relationship is really very simply, The Art of Communication.

The First Key thing is, Be Wary, of our natural mistakes of emphasizing the key importance of 'How To' rather than Actual Real Communication. Kinda like realising the intention behind it.

If you've heard of the phrase, 'You don't need a great list of vocab to communicate effectively', well, then you would be one of the lucky ones, grasping the core purpose of communication. A top copywriter I know, once said to me, the best ads are not written with bombastic words.The best ads are written with the simplest English for the layman to understand.

Whats the use of learning a new word everyday, if I don't use it effectively across? Does saying a sentence to someone guarantees it was a successful sharing? We dont need a beautiful voice to communicate well. Nor a loud tone, nor perfect tense, a knowledgable mind nor a good topic at hand. Nor be physically intact to say the least!

The Second Key is the word effectively. Well, it means, relate in anyway, in any direction BUT As Long As The Others Get it.

Why I had decided to write this, is because the effects of non-effective communication can begin a harmful cycle of things. Eg, a broken relationship or marriage, can cause a physcological damage to a child, if not on themselves. A misunderstood friend can feel depress. A lost soul can be left behind. A never resolved issue (no matter how petty) can cause a traumatic exprerience for someone I care about, etc.

So what I realised is, no matter how I do it, I've gotta do it effectively. Otherwise it would not just frustrate others, have others misunderstand me, waste everyone else's time or have me loose my audience. It could cause a negative event around me, Caused By Me!

With this, I make my peace, to those who don't try hard enough. And also to whom I have judged in not trying hard enough. And thanks and respect to those who has the courage to keep taking the ownership to it.

With just one effort, the world may turn out surprisingly better. I mean the world we all live in.

My Win List

Here's what really matters to me.

Taping into my talent and passion to continously love and share that.

Making a name as an artist if not this lifetime. in my after life.

Complete my Marine Series and Tree Book Project and get sponsorship to publish them.

Visit 2 new places.

Life Savings Certificate. Yoga Teaching Certificate.

Savings for all that!

Life, Paint and Passion @ Art Therapy

During the end of December, I recalled how fearful I was to embrace what This new year will mean to me. Like as if predetermined, I know its no doubt a year for me towards the unknown. No matter how I go in circles contemplating on life, lets face it, it really has no limits. In what will become of.

When I first heard of art therapy, it was from browsing this book called Point Zero, Creativity Without Limits by Michele Cassou. Here it is, a lady who listens to her soul in self expression and made a career out of it. Life without imagination would not be colorful. Predictability would make us numb. The mind needs to forsee for some reason, but the soul knows better always. Otherwise life would seem meaningless.

What is life without passion? Passion, to breathe, to want to be alive, to want to feed our souls, to want to see whats in the world, to want to just be.

I love my world because I paint her with unlimited everchanging rainbow of colors and form. Like being reborn everyday, everything is a new. The clouds today will never be the same in any other day in history. They will never float or flutter about like this very second. Nor make faces at me as their mood changes with the wind. Or travel miles perhaps from the Indian Ocean to say hi.

Skies. My other favourite! The sky above you is above me. If you were in heaven, so will I be. If you were in suffering, so will I be.

There's no doubt a synergy of happenings all around us are in constant change. There's miracle and growth in everything. In every second, there's a new heart that is reborn everyday.

There's life, paint and passion. Yes God, what else do I need?

Underwater Pleasure

What a bubbling time I had at the pool. Ah my fav past time under the sunny rays in spore. And i really wanna try to write it out this time, why its such a pleasure to be underwater..

Have you ever gone on eye level with the water level? Silky patterns appear right underneath the surface of the water. The journey begins the moment those glowing bright blue sky color gels in movement and flow with millions of shiny white crystals. I see heaven!

First, lets dance like a butterfly! For best effect as always, at the deepest spot. Moving to feel my body is like being in touch with my soul. I hear nothing but the sound of my breath and the bubbly air I blow.

Sometimes, I hear my mind go on and on. Or sometimes just being in observation — of the bird, the zooming aircrafts, the palm trees, the children playing without fear. The water runs thru my fingers, and my senses starts to perk.

Some games I play — I try to swim straight eyes closed or discipline my thoughts. I try counting every stroke per lap. So far, I still haven't managed to count the similar number of strokes in different laps though in same speed and style! Today, it ranged from 39 to 69!

And then there's the fun part. Being in meditation and affirmation in my love for what I'm gifted to do. I get to visually picture what I'm doing. Usually, I'm on my beach, in my treehouse, overlooking an awesome view, and there i am, if not basking in the sun on the white virgin sand, I'd be painting, with my heart and soul.

I am aware that time stands still...
and thats when peace comes...
along with joy.

One moment in time. And its complete.

Quotes for the Soul

Every moment and every event of every man's life on earth plants something in his Soul.
--Thomas Merton

Learn to see, and then you'll know that there is no end to the new worlds for our vision.
--Carlos Castenada

The old man thinks he has seen and exhausted the world, but he has only exhausted his own world.
--Carlos Castenada

Here lies the great gift of the Spirit; though we may have lost our way, when we come to that realization, we discover the path once again.
--Dr. Lauren Artress

The sage is one who has first discovered what is common in our hearts.
--Mencius

It takes a long time to become young.
--Pablo Picasso

There is apparently a fragile bridge between expecting nothing and wanting everything.
--Jim Harrison

My after forty face felt far more comfortable than anything I lived with previously. Self-confidence was a powerful beauty- potion; I looked better because I felt better. Failure and grief as well as success and love had served me well. Finally, I was tapping into that most hard-won of youth dews: wisdom.

--Nancy Collins

Gandalf's wisdom @ I WILL SURRENDER

After months or years (subconcious mind) asking my career question, what am i destined to do? back and forth in countless vicious cycle, I decided to truly deal with it.

ALRIGHT GOD! OK OK! I WILL SURRENDER!.. I will surrender to be the being i was born to be. And what would that be? well, i dunno, and I SURRENDER! YOU HEAR ME?

...hushhh, hmm. lets be quiet here. God only speaks to those who are all ears! and thats what i shall be doing untill i get a clear clear answer.

but seriously, It IS all an act of surrender. with the capital 'S'. My first time realising this word, was a year back. In the awesome book, The Eight Human Talent by Gurmukh Kaur Khalsa. It was my first insight into the power of acceptance and surrender. with that, i proceeded to search for a higher truth. Who am I the human, yearning to surrender to? Sunday services at a cosy church did propel me fwd with that question — though with no defnite answer. I find it hard to hear faith and believe it to be the truth. Perhaps bible study is all i need?!? Well i'm in luck, my spiritual best friend seems to have the right books at the right time. I will then be all ready to soak up the Course of Miracles after my current book, Power vs Force.

Just now, as i sat by the beach soakg up the essence of the twinkling stars from the tiny docked ships, deep within me, i just know, why fret over something i'll never know for sure? CAN I NOT J-U-S-T B-E.

Tom Cruise, in Last Samurai said "A man does his best until his destiny is revealed" . It goes hand in hand with Gandalf's words of wisdom, "All you have to do is to decide what to do with the time that is given to you now."

On this mistfying nite as i listen to the one of the most soothing classical piece ever composed, Canon in D, i surrender to my blissful joy in my 30 years (1 in mummy's womb) of experience of the heavenly touch of angels & miracles that I've seen, heard and touched by, direct or indirectly, and to those whom I've had the blessed chance to be in journey with.

Today, I am blessed to enjoy how fun it was to work on my site, check out the fishshops, having Kian to share my contemplations with and laugh at how silly i can be with life sometimes, great great music from all over the world, my pet fishes, my comfy bed and comforter, all the cats in the world, technology so i can chat with my family, my angel bro, my beautiful sis, simple and lovely mum, and my warrior dad. I'm so blessed to have the experience of love in my life to share that with those around me.

And u know what just came to me? God always told me to never stop creating. for thats my gift. and never stop painting. ; ) i guess God had always been speaking as I reconnect.

What better way to surrender then to gulp down some chilled perrier. Night God. Night to my divine higher being.

Clarke Quay Flea Market @ Raise Fund Day

Sunny Sunday! but oh, my eyes hurt! Not enough sleep from the nite before, rushing to sample and clear my CDs. I've not set up a stall before — couldn't sit still, correcting fengshui flow every 10 min. CDs proved to be a popular buy and the Quay is certainly full of character. In between, Kian drove to get raw milk where we also saw bullfrogs being farmed. Was a great day. Only plan was to help raise fund for David. and the rest just fell into place.

Davids inspiring spirit can be read at site http://www.angelfire.com/theforce/heals/


Thanks to everyone, this was a great experience for me. Like a process of lettin go of my past, as i picked out from my pile of memories on whats useful to keep and what to give away. There was my fav baseball man, keychains from Germany and Paris, Night Safari and sister's California magnets, old souls like Depeche Mode, my white blackeyed fur dog- memory of working with Times, candle sticks - memory of old rented place, jewellery - back all the way to NZ and BOOKS! I'm more selective in reading what to read.
Can spot my things at link below in flea market pic!

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